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Low Self-Esteem? 3 steps to build your confidence
Low self-esteem can be a major setback when it comes to asking someone out. Here are some tips to help you improve yours.
By Peter Murphy
Poor self-esteem can affect many different areas of your life. From difficult relationships with family and friends and a negative impact on your career to stress, anxiety and loneliness. It is one of the leading causes of depression and can often lead to alcohol and drug abuse.
In an unfortunate cycle effect, the more the negative impacts of a poor self-esteem become evident, the worse the sufferer is likely to feel. This can lead to a downward spiral into deep depression that may lead to self-destructive behavior.
If you have made the all important step to decide you want to improve your self-esteem and believe that you can, there are three critical steps that can help you achieve this.
1. Silencing the Negative Voice
Perhaps the most critical step in improving the way you see yourself is silencing the negative inner voice. Learning how to effectively combat that negativity will help foster a positive self image. It’s not as difficult as it sounds.
For example, imagine you have an important presentation to make at work. After the presentation, your negative voice is likely to start immediately pointing out all of your errors, regardless of how well you actually did.
When this happens, try telling yourself three positive things about the presentation. Perhaps someone agreed with a point you made, or maybe you got some chuckles from your opening joke, find three positive points, whatever they are, and you will soon find that negative voice fading into the background.
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June 1, 2010 by adavenport
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Hi Naomi
This is so true! I’ve actually been planning to write a blog post about this myself. I will link to your post when I do
In my past, I grew up with eating disorders, which comes coupled with low self-esteem. It made it SO difficult for me to accept love in relationships because I did not love me.
You know the saying you can only love someone as much as you love yourself?
I think it goes both ways actually…
You also can only let someone love you as much as you love yourself.
Thanks for sharing these tips they are excellent!
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Wooww.. thanks for this wonderful article, this article really inspired me and made me feel that there are things I can do for myself to improve my confidence!
If you circulate in the ranks of the Bohemian lifestyle for a while you will find a curious mix of people with high esteem and a lot with low self esteem that has caused them largely to ‘drop’ out of the system. I have found that a lot of people with low self esteem have had troubled childhoods relating to parental issues, something I never had, my mum gave me an underlying emotional security blanket that still exists long after her death. With respects to dating and well quite frankly eveerything, job etc, self esteem is so important.
The world is not inherently hostile to anyone but it is largely indifferent, it operates as a ‘mirror’ to whatever you project. I have found that a lot of low self esteem people think the world is against them when really it is only reflecting their own inner insecurity and that by changing their own projected
persona they can actually change their lives. There is a saying ‘We must be the Change we wish to see in the World’ and that is so true.