The Do’s Of Talking Dirty In Bed

A sure-fire way to spice up even the dullest of sex lives is to try a little dirty talk. Here are some tips for beginners.

By Ruth Purple

Talking dirty is an art form. It may seem a little too much for some, while it simply isn’t something that others usually do. However, doing it right can actually fire up the bedroom and perk up a flagging relationship. A person wishing to learn how to talk dirty is always faced with the dilemma of where and how to start. Even nowadays, some people still find it difficult to talk about what they want when it comes to sex. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship, and the secret to mind-blowing sex.

The most important golden rule in talking dirty is to know your partner’s acceptance level first.

It is always a must to test the waters in a relaxed conversation when initiating something new into lovemaking, unless you want to get slapped and kicked out of his/her life or your partner reaching for the phone to call the nearest police station! By getting the idea into your partner’s head, he/she will most likely ponder upon it and possibly talk about it with friends to ask for their opinion and past experience about it. However, not all may be comfortable with it, so when your partner flatly snubs the idea, it is best to just drop it.

Successfully adding dirty talk into your sex play takes creativity and sensitivity-the point here is to turn the other person on, not make him/her squirm or cackle in amusement.

Reading an erotic story is one way to warm up one’s partner. The internet alone has an ample supply of incredibly erotic stories which can be downloaded for free. There are erotica magazines that may also be a good choice to read. You can both practice your dirty voice while spending fun time together. Whether it leads to sex or not is well, up to you.

Swearing is undeniably a major part of our culture, as it is often used for effect and expression in just about anything we say. It also works the same when talking dirty in bed, because the filthy words have quite an impact on the act that is being performed: it urges on the rawness of the sexual act, and can in fact bring out another side of the person.

If your girl is the demure and sweet type who helps out at the church social every week, unleashing her wild side in bed can be a real aphrodisiac for both of you. Learning only a few phrases in French may not help much if you plan to travel to France, but it can sure do a lot in making him/her aware of how electric you can be. English may be the universal language, although not the most romantic one there is. French, Italian or Portuguese sounds a lot better, maybe because it sounds different and the words are so delightful to listen to when spoken with sophistication and finesse.

Words in a foreign tongue quietly and silkily whispered to one’s ear during sex is undoubtedly titillating, despite what it is being said. However, it is always better to whisper sexy nothings to one’s partner than telling him/her that you ate fried lizards in Spanish.

About the Author: Ruth Purple is a Relationships Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Ruth recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website http://www.relazine.com. You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.

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