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The first date – should the man pay?
The first date – who should pay? Should the man pay, should you go dutch or… should the woman pay?
It’s a controversial topic… So Naomi Robson put the question to professional match maker, Samantha Jayne, the CEO of Blue Label Life who has extensive knowledge of ‘what women want’ from dealing with her numerous female clients in her very successful match making business.
It’s the age old question, should the man pay? Should they go Dutch, or should the person who asked the other on a date pay? It’s an issue that can be a bit confusing to men – are they expected to pay for the first date? How should they handle this?
Well, Samantha has this dating advice for men. Don’t shoot the messenger – she’s speaking from the experiences of her female clients.
Naomi Robson is the Director of Little Frog Productions, trading as NaomiShow.com.
You might also like to check out Naomi’s interview with Samantha about Blue Label Life – how it works, what it costs and her success rate in  What can a professional match maker do for you?
Or you can read Samantha’s article:
First date – Who should pay?
And we’d love to hear your thoughts on who should pay for the first date.. and you can leave your comments below, no need to be a member – just post away!
May 25, 2010 by nrobson
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Naomi,I like your site.It is great.I have seen some other sites where some greedy women or men are involved in money making business and looting the innocent people by givingt their so called expert advice on relationships and love.You are doing a quaility service for a good cause.Keep it up…I like your style of conducting interviews.It is fantastic.
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If I like the man and want to see him again, I always let him pay, for the first ddate in its entirety, thus sending him the message that he is the mahn in the situation. I nevef feel this obligates me in any way,as I am sending him a message. BUT If i don’t want to see him again I will definately pay my own way, and always have enough money for that when I go out. That way he can make no mistake about any obligations.
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Robbie – I was also listening to Tony Delroy’s “Nightline” last night (Wed. 26th) on 774 abc Melbourne, which seems to point in the direction of even more equality of gendre(?)..too controversial for me!
) the links are on their website.
Nicole – Well as a female point of view I tend to pay my own way if im not interested but if I am and he offers to pay I let him….I guess I do this so if im not interested I don’t get that nasty txt which goes on about me owing them a dinner or lunch because they paid.
Frank – The man. If you can’t afford to pay for a date don’t date. But I may be old fashioned.
Wendy – I agree with Nicole
You cant help it if you find out on the first date you aren’t suited or they aren’t really your type. It annoys me that some men think that if they pay for a dinner they have a claim on you! The nasty text thing after does happen to women. I think if they ask you for the date they should pay then if you keep seeing …
Frank – I’ve never laid a claim on a woman in my life. How can you control a woman? Or any human being? Only fools think they can. But I do think it is ethical that if you invite someone out that you pay. It’s good manners.
Philippa – I pay my own way but have had a few friends who have had the nasty text when the guy has paid and they do not want to go out again …
Karema – If it’s not a “Pension” week Naomi, I expect that they pay out of sympathy….Sympathy for the fact that I am hungry…!
The Naomi Show – LoveLife – It’s so nice to see that Frank is such a lovely gentlemen with old-fashioned manners..
And girls … as for the nasty texts.. isn’t is great to work out that they’re not for you so early on in the piece.. Then it’s time to throw open the door and yell “Next!” If someone sends unpleasant texts it’s simply a reflection of who they are as a person.
i have no problem paying for the first date, or any date. but i am the type who has a type, and the type of woman i am most comfortable with is the same type who is most likely to insist she pay at least her own way. my trick is to state up front when i ask the woman out that i would like to pay if that would be alright (because i do like to pay! i like the sense that i can pay!). the usual response is she insists on dutch. i wish it were not so, but… and for the record, i have paid for dates where i had no intention of having sex with the woman, then or ever.
I always take plenty of money or the credit card out with me and then play it be ear, but I am always prepared to offer to pay the first date bill. It’s just the way things are, some women want to go dutch other’s don’t, but just take enough money so you don’t die wondering. Should the woman pay? Now that is an interesting one, being of the ‘Old School Gentleman’ category I think the furtherest I would go is 50/50.